Post 23…August 2023   Admitting the abuse

Sometimes it is hard and confusing to admit that you are in an abusive relationship or to find a way out.  There are clear signs to help you know if you are being abused.  If the person you love or live with does any of these things to you, it is time for you to get some help.

Monitors what you are doing all the time

Criticizes you for little things

Constantly accuses you of being unfaithful

Prevents or discourages you from seeing family or friends, or going to work or school

They get angry when drinking alcohol or drugs

Controls how you spend your money

Controls your use of needed medicines

Humiliates you in front of others

Destroys your property or things that you care about

Threatens to hurt you, the children, the pets, parents, or others or does hurt you by things like hitting, beating, pushing, shoving, punching, slapping, kicking, or biting

Uses or threatens to use a weapon against you

Forces you to have sex against your will

Blames you for his or her violent outbursts


Both men and women can be abusive, and when it happens you need to get help