Thursday, January 26, 2023
Fix what? Whatever it is that is hurting you!
Well, before we get into today’s lesson, I want to say that no matter how bad things are or feel they are in your life…God loves you, and God wants to get you through the “it’s of life”.
We all have wounds in our life that need healed at some point. Heartbreaks come and go in our life, people leave we wish would have stayed, people grow apart, and some people just can’t love us like we want to and need to be loved. But…………maybe it could also be you that can’t love enough, do enough, or be enough either. We don’t want to believe that one, but sometimes it is us with the issue and not necessarily the other person.
There are lessons to be learned from each situation in life that we go through. Some are easy to understand and deal with while others we just want “that lesson in life” to just go away. Some have many tears that are shed and some we just don’t understand even what just happened.
What do we learn from “whatever it” might be that we go through? In your pain really what did you learn? Don’t knock yourself in the head…lessons teach us many things in life, and we can learn good things even from all the garbage that we might have to deal with.
Sometimes our toughest lessons in life will bring someone great into our life that can love us back and that is there for us. God sees our tears, feels our pain, and fights for His kids. The thing is God sees the entire picture where we, as humans, seem to only run on feelings and emotions.
If it is someone you wanted to love you and they just don’t, can’t, or won’t…why would you want them? You won’t be happy with someone who really doesn’t care about you. We, as Christians, ask God to fix something and then get mad if He doesn’t fix it the way we want Him to. Why? God is a lot bigger, better, and smarter than we are.
Sometimes it is just not the right time, the right circumstances, or the right person that we think we want in life. Maybe God wants to first take us down a different path that is better for us in the long run. Maybe the person we thought we wanted and loved even would be happier elsewhere. Would we not want that person that we claimed to love…wouldn’t we want them happy? Everything is not just about us being happy.
Maybe the lesson we need to learn is patience. Sometimes people rush into things that if they took their time on…would find out that the person really is not the one for us. How did that person treat other people? Were they possessive (male or female)? Did they get angry over dumb things? Do they communicate? What is most important to them? Would they ever really settle down? Do they like what you like? Is “sex” all that attracts each of you? Are they kind, considerate, and do they care about what you care about? Sometimes people are just not right for the other one. And besides that…stop settling for mediocre love. When it is the right person you both will feel loved, and it will last over the years. Also, some might have been right for you and you deeply love/ed them, but maybe you were not the one for them.
God can fix things, but not all things will be fixed as we thought or wanted it to be. However, we can look back into our life as a child and things seemed to get fixed by other’s help. A parent, teacher, neighbor, friend etc., Life seemed to be easier for some while others had just the same problems and circumstances, or bad things even going on in their life and no one was there helping them get out of that situation. (Abuse, alcohol, drugs, mean people, bullies, sickness, or whatever it might have been) People might have tried to help us but sometimes they just couldn’t help fix our situation. Parents try (usually) to help fix us when we feel broken, but sometimes even when they try their hardest…sometimes and somethings they just can’t fix. People might give their best attempt to fix our situation but just can’t. Then what? What do we do? Where do we go? How do we deal with life pain?
Well, I sure know the one that has helped me fix a lot of things in my life. His name is Jesus, and He loves me. However, He doesn’t always fix things as I wanted, but in the long run…they were things that needed fixed, done, or undone in my life. He took situations that I could not fix, did His thing, mixed it all up, and whala …out came the right answer, even if, at the time, it seemed like the wrong one. We all make mistakes, we all sin (yes, you and I do), and we all can be forgiven for the horrid things we might have done. Our God is a forgiving God…but we must confess and repent while we change our direction. When we submit to God then God can go to work on the issues at hand.
God wants to show us the “root” of our problems and not just a quick fix to them. He wants us to really be fixed and not just have a band aid on the problem. God wants to fix us and the issue and not just the symptoms of what is going on.
We all want and think God will fix anything. He surely can but somethings He just won’t. We wonder why but we don’t really want to know for in knowing the truth we just might find out that we must change something in our life that we just don’t want to do.
Then those things that “we” think are just unfixable might have an answer. We need to draw close to God, search His word, and do things His way. Yet, not always will God fix the situation. We ask why and God doesn’t always take away something or give us something. His grace is sufficient even in the things we don’t understand in life. He didn’t fix everything even to those in the Bible. He didn’t stop everything from happening and that does not mean that He doesn’t love us/or them. God sees the entire picture where we only see what is right in front of us.
His wisdom has helped billions over the years. God gives perfect advice to His children, but do we, as His children always listen to this perfect advice? No!
I have had a broken heart before, and it was devastating. My feeling and my heart broken. I did not get what I wanted…but over the years I have understood that as much as I wanted something the person, I so wanted found someone to love and be happy with and isn’t that important? Of course, it is. Don’t we truly want others happy even if they can’t be part of our life?
“The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.” Psalms 34:18. God was and is close to those that have had their hearts broken by tragedy, rejection, sickness, accidents, abused, or disappointed. Not only can He be with you when you go through the valley of despair, He can also help you get the victory.
Life is not always easy is it? Of course not. Stuff happens and that stuff that happens can crush our spirit. How many times in life did we walk away from God because things were not going as we wanted, instead of running towards Him and doing things His way? People can disappoint us for sure, and sometimes we think God has…but God, again, sees the entire situation and deals with it…not just a part of it. “And they that know thy name will put their trust in thee: for thou, LORD, hast not forsaken them that seek thee.” Psalms 9:10
Others may fail you, but God never will neglect one of His children. He promises “…I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.” (Hebrews 13:5)
“Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.” II Corinthians 5:17
Have you finally come to a point in your life where you have realized you have messed up your life? I came to that point and it was not pretty. Who had I hurt in life and who had hurt me? Did I want to stay in that situation or get help? Well, God can change you from the inside out and give you a second chance. For some of us I can’t even tell you how many times God has rescued me from me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So what about if you have a broken body, or a broken relationship? What do you do? First, there is a saying in the bible that says: “For with God nothing shall be impossible.” Luke 1:37
When all earthly hope seems to have vanished, there is a God that can do anything, and can change any situation…He can…but should He? Will He? What if what you want and ask for will take you down the wrong road?
Not all things that are “broken” should be fixed. There are times things need to stay broken and discarded. God’s help is the one we should always seek first in any situation. Why? Again, because God sees the entire picture of your situation and not just what you see now. Since God loves us the most and desires only what is good for us and our relationship with Him. His intervention and direction are the best for us. We can always trust God.
Now know this somethings God will come right along side and help us, but at other times…not so much. Sometimes (again) God sees what we don’t see so He knows what is right, the timing, and what to do or not to do. We can always trust God!
If God is for us, who can ever be against us? Since he did not spare even his own Son but gave him up for us all, won’t he also give us everything else?” Romans 8:31b-32 (NLT)
“I’ll fix it.” Don’t we greatly desire God to say that to us? Of course, we do. God can move mountains for His kids, but sometimes we must climb that mountain, go through the valley, and even cross the sea first.
Some things might be a breeze to fix even for us, while others we might have to use a walking stick to climb that mountain. Problems come and go in our life. When we are young we might feel like everything is great and there are no real issues in life to deal with, but get old, get sick, don’t have a job, someone we love dies, and our body just starts to give out and we see things in a totally different light. We get down and can’t get up easily, and we sure don’t always want to hear what a doctor has to say. There might not be enough money not only to pay our bills, but to even eat in this crazy insane world. We need help but who will help us?
Okay, by now you know I sure am not perfect and I have made many errors/mistakes in my life. Some, if honest…I chose to do, while others even devastated me in doing them. I don’t want to hurt anyone but I surely did. I wonder what I would have liked to have heard for me when I screwed up> Possibly: I’ll fix it. Don’t we want to hear that? I did! But that doesn’t always happen…seldom if we are honest. We screw up and we just want God to wave a magic whatever and fix it. Yet, at times, He says yes, no, or absolutely no. You need to learn “whatever” first then we will talk!” We all have a part to play in getting us fixed. First we need to trust God, do as He says and the way He says to do it. Nope, we don’t want that part after all we are human and want to do things however we want to. But didn’t we ask God to fix us/fix it? Then why are we so stubborn and still won’t listen?
God is always “fixing things” on our behalf. No matter how badly things are going in life, we can live in hope, not fear. “If God is for us, who can ever be against us? Since he did not spare even his own Son but gave him up for us all, won’t he also give us everything else?” (Romans 8:31b-32).
God’s grace makes our hope possible. Not just for today, but for all of eternity. We do mess up from time to time in life. We sin (most likely every day in some way by thought, word, or deed). We don’t want to sin but life is life and stuff happens. We judge people without knowing them or their situation. We judge how they look, what they say, what they do…and so on. We shouldn’t…but at some level we most likely do.
God always makes time for His kids. We might not hear that small voice, or see that vision going on, or even get those fuzzy feelings…but God is there watching us and sometimes waits us out.
I know I sure would not want God’s job…ever! We, as humans would zap people we think are evil even though God is working on them to change. Some we think are good people…deep down inside are the evil ones. We can’t see what God sees. God sees motives and intentions and knows what is in someone’s heart. Nope, I don’t want His job. Would we judge everyone fairly…nope! Can you imagine how many people on this earth He is in tune with 24/7. We can’t even take on a few conversations all at once and He sees and hears everything of everyone good or evil people.
God saw a messed-up world where we were all headed to hell so He sent His son into this world to save us. Jesus took that cross and made it victorious for you and me. We no longer had to be headed for hell. We now have the opportunity to accept Jesus as our Lord and Savior and change our eternal destiny…. but it is up to each of us to make that decision. No one can choose Jesus for us. It must be our decision.
Okay, so what happens to us when God fixes the issue in our life? Are we really fixed and if so permanently? No! God might fix something now but that really doesn’t mean everything in our life is great. We have 24 hours in a day and just because one thing seems better and might very well be…do we still have a part to play? God might fix things for you or get you to a point where you will know what to do…but one thing He does do is give us strength to go through whatever “it” might be. What I personally want from God even if He chooses not to “fit it”….is I want His peace in my soul. There is no “fix it” button in life. Everyone is different even if everything under the sun is the same. Nothing surprises God…nothing!!! God has seen it all, heard it all, been there and saw it first hand. He always knows what is going on and He tries to steer us right before we ever get to the point to mess up…yet we choose to do things and then we somehow think God should wave a magic wand and fix it.
God has never been late to anything even if we think He is. God’s grace is always sufficient to each of us. No matter how bad we have messed up in our life God wants our heart to change, us to accept Jesus as our Lord, so we can be victorious in life.
Romans 8, Paul continues: “And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow — not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below — indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Romans 8:38-39, NLT).
God’s love is always constant. That is amazing! I thank God that He has never left me no matter how horrible I must have acted in my life.
Now, may our wonderful and amazing God bless you. May you always go to Him first and learn what He wants from you. May God take your situation in life and fix it, but if He chooses to allow you to go through something…may you trust His decision. God wants us to spend eternity with Him. Let us do whatever it takes to get our life right with God so we can be with Him for all eternity.
God bless you!